Ask any five people what ‘confidentiality’ means and they will all likely give you some version of the commonly-accepted definition: if I tell you something, don’t tell anyone else. They’d be correct, of course, but their answer would also be incomplete. There is another aspect to this concept which I’d venture to say few ever consider. I believe confidentiality is more than just “Please don’t bring it up to other people,” I think the hard and fast rule should be, “Please don’t bring it up, period
This is something I became acutely aware of after my ordeal with cancer. There were complications. My oncologist, bless his heart, got rid of my cancer, but he made mistakes and I was quite ill for quite some time. But I’m a trooper — I wasn’t going to let it keep me down!
What amazed me, though, was just how many people there were who not only wanted to hear my tales of woe themselves, but enthusiastically urged me to be the life of the party by entertaining their family and friends with as many gory details as I could possibly recall, in as much gruesome technicolor as I could possibly manage. Never mind that I had chosen to attend this shindig so I could, if only for short bursts at a time, forget I was a cancer patient recovering from what was arguably the most frightening event in my life — there was a horror story to be had and my new-found fans seemed impatient to hang on each and every revolting word.
I really, really did not want to embarrass my hostess, but I really, really
, REALLY did not want to spend the remainder of my one evening out wading waist-deep into the one quagmire I’d braved the outside world to escape. As gently, but firmly, as I could, I refused.
Of course, I’m glad I had the intestinal fortitude to do that, but I cannot help but think: all of us have horrors in our lives, in one manner or another. None of us will pass through this life completely unscathed. So shouldn’t we, since we all know what it’s like to try and temporarily forget something only to have some well-meaning (or not-so-well-meaning) person bring it up and remind us when we least want them to (grrrrr!!!), think about being a little more respectful of another person’s guts before
heedlessly insisting they spill them all over the floor?
That’s where true confidentiality comes in. If someone shares something in confidence, particularly something that’s difficult to bear, maybe we should go a step further with our definition than just not bringing it up at the next town meeting. Maybe we should not bring it up at all, to anyone, ever, just in case the one who told us finally managed — even for a few minutes — to put it aside as they struggle to put their life back together. It’s that person’s
story. If they want to talk about it, they’ll tell you. But until then, I think the most humane and loving thing we can do is keep their confidence — even from them! Pamela S. K. Glasner is a published author and a filmmaker. Learn more about Ms. Glasner on Facebook at http://tinyurl.com/am5mjoy Copyright by Pamela S. K. Glasner © 2013, All Rights Reserved
Tags: Pamela Glasner, Starjack Entertainment, Last Will and Embezzlement, Confidentiality, Confidence, Cancer, Empowerment, Healing.
The Second Installment of “Something Beyond Survival” is Published! And it’s even more powerful than the first. Read it on the Huffington Post by following this link:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pamela-glasner/something-beyond-survival_1_b_2915070.html … and please, check back weekly for the next chapters!
Here's a bit of what's in this week's installment:
If I spend my time — and my love and my peace — hating the perpetrator, then I have given him my power. Without even being in my presence, indeed, most likely, without even giving me a second thought, he has power over me and I am his victim. If I choose to participate in his war, on his terms, on his battleground, I have given him my power and, again, I am his victim. And if I lose that war, which is all but predetermined because the battleground — and all the ground rules — are of his choosing and his making, then he has power over me and I am his victim.
(Sooooo -- after reading it in its entirety on The Huffington Post, if you feel so inspired, it'd be lovely if you could scroll all the way down to the bottom of the page and post a comment. Thanks!!)
“A friendly neighbor offers to go pick up an elderly couple’s license plates. He has them sign a specific power of attorney for that sole purpose, printed from an automobile-club website. He takes that to the bank and uses it to withdraw money from the couple’s account.”
“Power of attorney: It’s easily abused”
‘How to protect ailing relatives from fraud and abuse’
Excellent article by renowned journalist and prolific writer Elizabeth O’Brien (Wall Street Journal’s MarketWatch).
The first of a series of new articles by Starjack partner Pamela S. K. Glasner is now on the Huffington Post: an uncompromising look at being victimized, the long road to recovery, the hunger to live again, and one woman’s successful journey.
Click on the image to be taken to the Huffington Post
to read the complete article … and then check back weekly for the next chapters!
In their latest interview for Iron Fist magazine, ASOMVEL talk about, their collaboration with STARJACK ENTERTAINMENT, 'MADDER THAN A FULL MOON DOG', and their contribution to the soundtrack for Starjack’s upcoming horror film, THE CALICOON, starring TWISTED SISTER front-man, Dee Snider. To read the full article, purchase this month’s edition of Iron Fist here: www.ironfistmag.com
Starjack Entertainment's Full Moon Dog Festival also received a fantastic review in Iron Fist's December issue - proving you can never have too much of a good thing!
A film more nasty than a dose of pox - ‘Madder Than a Full Moon Dog’
Filmed at Full Moon Dog Festival 2012, Leeds, England, and featuring live performances, interviews, and back-stage tomfoolery from such bands as Orange Goblin, ASOMVEL, Dark Forest, and many more great British metal acts - Starjack Entertainment’s new release is a rare glimpse into the world of heavy metal.
Coming January 2013Click here to view the trailer
Order your copy now! www.madderthanafullmoondog.com
Iron Fist Magazine (UK) have given Starjack Entertainment's Full Moon Dog 2012
a glowing review in their November issue!
They call the festival, "A triumphant celebration of Great British metal"
And say of ASOMVEL, "ASOMVEL were only ever going to kill and kill they do...they stage a truly crushing display that would have made the late Jay-Jay extremely proud"
Best known as Twisted Sister front-man, Dee Snider will be playing the role of the Riggs: a complex man who divides his time between trying to hold the crumbling hotel together, inappropriately waving his blatant sexuality around like a flag, and drinking copious amounts of liquor in a futile attempt to drown out some vague but hideous incident from his … and the hotel’s … past.
Aside from his stupendous musical career, Dee’s multi-faceted career has found him hosting popular radio and TV shows, acting in feature films, lending his beautiful narrating voice to multiple documentaries, and appearing in such popular TV reality shows as Growing Up Twisted
and Celebrity Apprentice
Director, Deborah Louise Robinson had this to say about this latest turn of events: “As a long-time fan of Dee and his work, I could not be more excited to be working with him on The Calicoon
. He is an incredibly talented and charismatic individual, and absolutely my first choice for this role. I am honoured that he has agreed be a part of this.”
For more information on Starjack Entertainment, its partners, and the film, please visit these sites:
Starjack Entertainment Website: www.starjackentertainment.com
Official Film Website: www.calicoon.comtags: Dee Snider, Deborah Louise Robinson, Heavy metal, The Calicoon, Casting, Starjack Entertainment, Pamela Glasner, Shane Snider, Horror Film, Thriller
BUILD IT AND THEY WILL COME
We are thrilled to say that Full Moon Dog 2012 was better than we could have ever imagined! So many people turned up to honour the memory of Jay-Jay Winter – and they gave him a party fit for a legend!
The Cockpit in Leeds was near capacity within minutes of doors opening – and at one o’clock we started a party that we’ll remember forever. We will never, ever forget Full Moon Dog 2012, or the people we met there.
So many people came up to thank us for organising the festival, and we am deeply humbled by that – it wasn’t us who made this the kick-ass shin-dig it was – it was the amazing bands who played their hearts out, and it was the heavy rockers that came from all over the world to celebrate Jay’s life, it was the hearts and spirits of everyone in the room – it takes people to create an atmosphere – and thank God, we had the people.
We had been promoting this festival as ‘Bringing back the 80’s' – and yesterday, it was like being back in 1985 when venues would be packed to the rafters with rockers pumping their fists and raising their horns for a genre they worshipped – All you people who got off your backsides, travelled to Leeds, and did it like you meant it - YOU made it work! And we salute you.
PBS HONORS "LAST WILL AND EMBEZZLEMENT" --- they asked producer/director, Deborah Louise Robinson to write an article for their new online site, NextAvenue. And she did! Please read it and share it -- it's beautifully written and very memorable!http://www.nextavenue.org/article/2012-08/what-making-documentary-about-elder-fraud-taught-me TAGS: PBS, Mickey Rooney, Last Will and Embezzlement, Pamela Glasner, Deborah Louise Robinson, elder exploitation, elder abuse, financial exploitation, embezzlement, Starjack Entertainment, senility, dementia, olympics, Alan Rickman, Tom Criuse, Bill Nye, oil prices, Obamacare, mortgage rates, Romney, The Amazing Spider Man, Channing Tatuma Stone, magic Mike, Ted, Brave, Johnny Depp, Nora Ephron, Chris Hemsworth, Chris Aber,